One of my 11 year old boys told me at our recent Winter Camp that, “One day I’m going to do something great!”
Similar to the acorn that holds the latent potential of the oak tree within, each boy holds his own greatness. It is “believing in” this greatness and nurturing it that we are empowering him to become his best self. Gone are the days where we solely want him to simply “get a good job” . . . now we want him to have a rewarding life! It is a shift of epic proportions I think!
Such a shift begins with empowering the boys. Literally helping them gain a sense of inner confidence, courage and strength to successfully surmount whatever life presents! It is guiding them to persevere when obstacles arise in childhood, as they always do, such as bullies, failed grades, mistakes, disappointments and bruises. Such inner gusto will also lead them on to pursue their dreams!
I believe organized choral music . . . singing in a choir . . . can do that. I know it did for me!
Empowering literally means to “put in” or “to cause” power as derived from its Latin roots. The act of empowering boys is a process of guiding them to feel and believe that they are powerful now, as well as creating optimum conditions that mirror back to them these concepts.
One boy, age 10, lit up when I told him he was “so well behaved and talented” in choir. It’s almost as if you could literally see him looking more confident and stronger. It is a great example of a boy beginning to feel like a powerful creator. Hopefully, that feeling will transfer on to his school and home life as well!
Empowering others doesn’t necessarily come naturally to everyone! The good news is that it is a learnable skill.
Learning to empower our boys isn’t complicated either. It really takes the same effort that you apply to any goal with enthusiasm, dedication and a willingness to “set aside” your preconceived ideas, projections and personal baggage. Especially a boy, so wholeheartedly wants to believe that his dreams can come true. Like when one of our 6 year old boys in our Music Magic class told me, he wants to be a spaceship repairman in outer space. I told him . . . “go for it!”
The two main techniques I use to empower our boys are:
Mirroring – the process of serving as the reflection of a boy’s abilities, skills and qualities so they begin to “see” themselves as they really already are: highly valuable, talented and capable right now.
Encouragement – the act of literally “putting in courage” or belief in a boy. Such support enables them to “see” themselves as they already are: highly competent right now.
I hope you are able to empower a boy today . . . the dividend pays off for the rest of his life!