This is something I have learned . . . especially working with boys! The biggest communication problem is that we do not listen to understand – we listen to reply.
I have discovered that the boys who need to be cared for the most will ask for it in the most uncaring of ways. I have to look and listen more deeply to really hear and understand what is wrong. I have also discovered that this applies to my life outside of the choir!
We must listen earnestly to things boys want to tell us, no matter what. If we don’t listen eagerly to the small stuff they tell us when they’re young and small, they won’t tell you the big stuff when they’re older and big . . . because to them – all of it has always been big stuff.
I really like what Dr. Seuss says about life and especially about listening and hearing . . . “I have discovered that sometimes you will never know the value of a moment until it becomes a memory.”
That, and the fact that boys can make wonderful music is less significant than the fact that music can make wonderful boys. Just listen to them sing!
Now, what did you say again?!