Given that we are no longer able to meet and rehearse with our boys, I have started an every other week video chat for our Tour Choir boys. In it, I talk about many things involving the organization; how much I know they miss each other and singing and how much I miss seeing and hearing each one of them. I also have a joke I tell them, with the first one to text or email me the correct answer getting a prize at our August summer camp. I encourage them to record themselves singing one of their favorite songs and sending it to me for posting on our Face Book page. To date, I have received seven awesome video’s, four of which are from a two brother family and they are all just awesome! Such talent we have in our choirs!
Obviously, I remind them about staying smart and well regarding social distancing, hand washing and wearing a mask when having to go out.
The main thing I want to do of course, is to keep them ‘connected’ and ‘engaged’ as much as possible with our organization . . . their organization. The last time we rehearsed was on Thursday March 5th right before our Spring Break started. Since then, due to everything being cancelled, we have missed a wedding and a morning church performance. Sadly, we had to cancel our Spring Concert and even more sadly, our summer tour into New Mexico. Of course, the boys have not been back to school since that time either and won’t be for the remainder of this term.
It’s hard to explain to a nine – thirteen year old boy that life is not always fair . . . but that life DOES go on!
I always end my video chat with my personal advice as a psychologist and their director by explaining how important it is for their mental health [and their parents] to keep up a daily routine. Here is a more detailed list of what I share:
- Try to keep your regular, daily schedule—get up and go to bed at the same time if possible. Praying before bedtime or right when you get up, hopefully is part you’re your nightly ritual.
- Follow your own typical personal hygiene routines (bathing or showering) and get dressed every day. You don’t need to dress the way you normally would, but put on some different clothes.
- Try to eat meals at your normal times . . . and eat something every day, whether you feel like it or not.
- Try to do one productive thing every day, things like making up your bed, helping with the dishes, walking the dog or taking out the trash.
- If you feel like singing, sing! As much and as loud as you want, preferably in your bedroom! Plan a mini-concert for your family.
- Read something every day. Catch up on your reading for pleasure and stay up with your reading for school.
- If you feel like “vegging out” in front of the television and binge watching, do so. But only once a day.
- Offer to help ‘cook’ or help with preparing a meal. Bake a box cake, some cookies or some brownies.
- Get some exercise and fresh air. Play in your yard, ride your bike or take a walk around your neighborhood, with your parents’ permission.
- Call or text your friends to keep up with things and find out and share what is going on.
- Draw a picture and color it or better yet, do some sidewalk chalk art to be an encouragement for your neighbors.
- And most of all, find what psychologists call some ‘me’ time every day and do something that you just love doing . . . something important and special to you like video games [in moderation], practicing your instrument or playing with Lego’s!
One boy summed up things for him and I think all the other boys too, when he texted me this:
“Although we are silent, at this point in time; sooner than later, our voices still fine.
We’re brothers in blue blazers and of course in our song and with our friendships . . . a place to belong!
Fort Bend Boys Choir where FBBC – Forever Boys Become Changed!”