When I started the Fort Bend Boys Choir in 1982, I was still a full-time practicing psychologist and thought I knew so much about working with children. While I did know a lot, it didn’t take me long to find out that I still had much to learn . . . especially when dealing with boys!
As we begin 2019, in no particular order, here are some successful things I have found to be very helpful as I deal with the boys in our choirs:
- Apologize publicly to the boys when you are wrong . . . let them see you are human.
- Do not assume you’re smarter than a boy simply because you are older . . . their insights are often far beyond their young years.
- Say thank you both privately and publicly to the boys when they do something for you or others.
- Admit when you’ve made a mistake and do it openly to the boys.
- Listen to them . . . don’t just ‘hear’ them.
I also remind them frequently of the following acronyms into their minds and way of thinking:
- F.A.I.L. = First attempt in learning.
- E.N.D. = Effort never dies.
- N.O. = Next opportunity
Of course there are many more things I could add, but these concepts, especially, have helped me and our entire organization of boys to grow and thrive!
I hope you have a wondrous new year filled with all the things you and your family need.
Happy New Year!